So you want to go on a date with the lady you’ve had a crush on, and you want to impress her. You are looking for cool date ideas that will help you) leave her feeling excited. You don’t have to rob a bank to take her on awesome dates. There are cheap creative date ideas that can excite her. Dinner dates and coffee dates seem dull and ordinary. Nobody wants boring activities anymore so why don’t you let your creative juices flow and think of adventurous date ideas for you and your date.
When I learned that Kevin will be assigned in Singapore for 3 years because he needs to set up a new office for their company, I felt my heart stopped for 15 minutes until I digested the whole thing. OMG! I don’t know if we can make this happen – our relationship to be in this “situation”. These are the sentiments of individuals whose relationship started online (pros and cons here: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/chat/pros-and-cons-of-an-anonymous-chat-room/), and those that started in person.
Every person dreams of having the perfect relationship – that fairy tale relationship where everything seems so magical, but the truth is that most people are not willing to put in the work that comes with having that fairy-tale-kind-of-love. Even in reality, there aren’t any relationships without mistakes, but there are some common mistakes couples can avoid to have a successful relationship. It is advisable to be aware of some of these challenges, so you catch them in time before they end up destroying your relationship.
Would you be willing to go out on a date with someone you met online? Would you register on a dating website to find love? Do you think true love can be found through the internet?
In this age and time, when it has become so hard to meet new people maybe because of work, career or just life, online dating offers an easy way to meet new people. Online dating has created opportunities to meet diverse people where ordinarily there was none – you were just limited to your small circle.
Starting a new relationship or entering the dating scene after a long time can be overwhelming which is why there are some set of rules for dating. Not everyone might know all the rules when it comes to having a successful relationship. Sometimes, the work involved in keeping a relationship intact is harder than it should be. There are days when you just want to call it quits and resign yourself to long nights of loneliness while on other days, you feel like you are on cloud 9 and never want to let go.
Tinder. OKCupid. Badoo. These are just a few of the most popular websites for online dating. According to the survey conducted by the Pew Research Center last 2016, 15% of all the adult American population has tried online dating once in their lives. It is undeniably possible that the popularity of online dating is on fire.
Can you imagine my mother who has been divorced since she was thirty, has found “the one” for her the second time around, on her 50th birthday? That’s right! When she celebrated her glorious age of 50, her then “boyfriend” proposed to her and gave her a Tiffany engagement ring. The rock was enormous (he owns two or three fast-food chains so I’m assuming he’s moneyed ) and I was really jealous of my mom! I got a cubic zirconia, silver plated engagement ring while she was given a blue box.
There are so many minor and major infractions that can destroy a relationship. Maybe one partner is too busy for the other, or one has the inability to remember important dates or is lying and cheating. Or worse, a vicious habit that one is keeping from another and actually needs recovery from addiction. Most of these issues could have been solved by listening to your partner and understanding their needs.
In the early appearance of the internet, every person was warned never to meet anybody from the internet. There was this misconception that every person on the internet was a murderer, a thief, a cheat or a serial killer.
Presently, online dating has become fun and is no longer seen as strange; people are beginning to embrace it as normal. Some people have even gone ahead to have long lasting relationships that led to marriage with partners they met online. A recent survey in Match.com shows that one in five people in a committed relationship, and one in six people married during the last three years, met their partners on the internet.
When women date, most of them (including me) would hope that their dates would flourish into wonderful and lasting relationships. Well, at first it would seem that they just want to have fun and have somebody to show off to their friends or their exes. Then when the first date becomes the second and the third, a flicker of hope begins to grow into them, yearning as always that this date is THE ONE.
And why wouldn’t he be? He’s handsome, especially when he smiles with his eyes. He’s so much fun to be with, he’s totally awesome with your friends, and he seems to be all over you! What’s there not to hope?
But what about the little things? Have you noticed his small habits or his unlikely mannerisms? What about the way he talks to you? Is he gentle or do you sense a tinge of sarcasm in his voice that he so tries to hide?
Here are a few warning signs that you should watch out for so you’ll know that your date is not boyfriend material after all.
Warning Signs That He’s Not Boyfriend Material
He postpones your dates and his activities are suspicious. It’s one thing to be late on a date, but it’s a big turn-off if he keeps on making excuses not to push through with one. When he says he can’t make it tonight because something important came up or that there’s an emergency at work, you better think twice, girl.
A shady person almost always cannot be trusted. It only means he won’t be there when you need him to be – or it just wouldn’t matter to him if you spend anniversaries alone.
He wants to change the way you are. When your date looks at you as if you’re perfect with those small side flabs and tiny freckles on your face, then you can consider holding on to him. But if he were someone who tells you there’s no way that he would tolerate his girl gaining weight and not lifting those weights, please tell him to be on his way.
Of course, it’s always good to be each other’s inspiration with everything, but when it seems as if you need to change something just to meet his standards, that is way beyond just wanting what’s best for you but what’s desirable to him.
He’s dating another girl but he tells you he’s more into you. If you think that’s flattering, think again. This doesn’t only show that he’s not committed but also that he’s not sure what he wants. He may want you today but tomorrow he might tell you he’s with Cathy and he finally decided she’s the one for him. So what do you do?
Of course, don’t give him the chance to treat you like he’s the one who dumped you. Dump him first and simply tell him, “You don’t deserve me.”
He badmouths his ex and tells you things that he shouldn’t have divulged to anyone in the first place. Being a gentleman is one of the best assets of a man, and backbiting an ex is certainly not the most gentlemanly thing to do. A guy who says something negative about his ex to you might give you the sense that he hasn’t really gotten over his ex – which could actually be true!
Also, some guys are so hung up with being hurt from their past relationships that they keep on complaining about how bad relationships can get. You have got to watch out for men like these. They spew negativity even before the two of you could even start. Don’t let this guy move on to date number two. Believe me. It’s better that way.
What I think
I guess out of the many red flags that I’ve read about men, these are some of the most important, all of which I do agree upon. Let’s hope we get to meet guys who are committed to making us happy and inspire us to be better but allow us to be ourselves.