The natural progression of relationships stems across years. Throughout those years, you and your partner grow and change a lot individually and as a couple. Part of “playing the long game” involves making plans about your future together. But sometimes, when two different people are in a relationship, these differences could either complement or cause friction between partners.
Whether you’re planning for college, or a dream job, dream city–or even not planning at all–when you’re in a relationship, decisions are not one-sided anymore. They become these multi-facet matrix where one opinion or preference could be the total opposite of what your partner wants.
In choosing who will be the right person in our teens, it is also right that they are the one to choose it not us – the parents! But, of course, we are just here to guide them. If you feel that your relationship is breaking down or your partner starts to display severe mood swings, you may want to turn to online counseling for help. In the meantime, below are few tips for you to use on how to guide them on how they will choose their love one soon.
Some men are serious about finding a woman they can fall completely in love with which can last for a lifetime. Likewise, women are tired of the dating scene and are waiting for the right man to come along who can commit to them for a life of bliss. Women need to keep a number of things in mind when trying to land that special guy.
Though we all want to find Mr. Right, it is imperative to teach our teenage daughters that it not easy to do so and that no one is perfect. That is why we, as parents, are here to guide and give them the support they need from us. However, if you have a teenager who you think is dating the wrong person and they won’t listen to you, you may wish to seek help with online counseling to learn ways on how to address the issue. Anyway…
You wake up with a pounding headache and the smell of your sheets – no, not your sheets – because you’re in someone else’s house!
You partied hard last night and you got so bombed you have only vague memories of mostly everything. You remember dancing with a cute guy – the one you were sharing tables with. You kissed while you danced and – well that was the most you can recall.
As you lay there not moving and couldn’t actually move because you don’t know where to go, you are filled with regret that you had too much to drink. You reach for your clothes on the floor and very quietly, you get into them, slip out of the room and head straight home without looking back. What happened was a one-night stand and will stay that way – at least as far as you know.
But come to think of it. If he calls and asks for a date, would you consider it? Perhaps you could give it a try, just to know how it really went that night – if you’re up to it – just to see if there’s chemistry between the two of you after all.
Not All One-Night Stands Don’t Work
In a recent study done by Match.com, they found that 27% of females turned their one-night stands into great relationships. This is to say that after being with someone you just met and talked with for a few hours and getting into bed with him quickly after, won’t necessarily mean no good will come out of it always. It means that some people who had one-night stands attempted to call or text each other to see if they were compatible with some things other than sex.
Planning to call or text after that fateful night is not easy, though. The awkwardness will be evident in the long silence between your conversations and the laughs that are almost obligatory. When you both decide to meet for the second time, it’ll be unusual to see each other in your clothes, as you seem to have forgotten that night before you went to bed. But when you get over that part, you’d be surprised that your conversations will be enjoyable and fun. You’ll have a lot to talk about because you’re actually still getting to know each other.
There have been a lot of testimonials from couples who started their relationships from one-time casual sex. They admitted that before you could see something special in a one-night stand, you should be able to get through that night and decide what to do in the morning – if you’re willing to wait for your date to wake up and talk about having breakfast together, to be open for a second date if he calls – or if you call – and if you decide that you don’t want to pursue it after all.
Although one-night stands have a negative reputation, more and more single men and women of today reveal that their current blooming relationships didn’t start the usual way. They never thought they’d end up with their partners now, but they did. It really is possible. That someone you spent the night with could be the one you’re going to spend your life with.
Here’s an excerpt of a one-night stand gone special:
“While traveling, I stayed in a hostel in Australia. One night, I met Sam, who was staying there too. We drank, flirted and ended up in a bunk bed in an empty dorm. I snuck back to my room, but the next day he came to ask if I wanted to hang out. We ended up traveling together, and seven and a half years on, we’re married.” Jean, 27
Online dating is very common these days, but the success rate on meeting a person that you can connect with online is slim to none. The reason for that is because a lot of dating profiles are a bunch of lies. People think that they are meeting with a “perfect-for-them” person, and yet it turns out to be a sham.
Being in a committed relationship isn’t always as fun—or rewarding—as people make it out to be. It takes a lot of time and effort to make a relationship work. Finding the perfect balance in maintaining your career, social life and relationship can be too much for a person to manage. Still, people tend to see committed relationships as the holy grail to their happiness. Truth be told?
When two people have been together for, say, five years or more, it would seem as if nothing can ever break their bond and anything that they go through, they can overcome. After all, what’s left unturned after five years of togetherness, right?
Yet it might be surprising to know that in most long-term relationships, couples are still not immune to arguments and fights and misunderstandings. As they find reasons to continue loving each other, so are there a lot of reasons to fall apart and fail, despite the length of the relationship.
But how are long term relationships different from the short term ones? Is it really more special or is length all just a number of years that can easily be won over by ‘love at first sights?’ When a long-term relationship is struggling and on the brink of failing, is it really worth saving? Here are some questions to ask to determine whether or not your relationship with your long-time partner is worth thinking over – before finally deciding to call it quits.
Questions to Ask
Where is your relationship built around?
A strong relationship is built on trust, openness, commitment and respect. When these walls make up the foundation of your relationship, it is difficult to put it to waste just like that. Relationships that are strengthened by these elements are composed of two people who truly love each other and deserve to be fought for. They should try as best they can to overcome the challenges of their failing relationship because they might never find something that they have now.
Have you always been effectively communicating?
In all relationships – new and old – communication is key. Small arguments rarely get big if couples only learn to talk about what’s bothering them, or what’s keeping them from doing what they’re supposed to do. If your partner is busy, he could show his thoughtfulness through calls or text messages, and you can do the same as well, just to keep the communication lines open.
Talking about your day is one way of knowing more about your partner and what they are like in the workplace or with their families. When there is communication, couples are encouraged to tell each other how they feel about certain things and be honest with each other.
Do you still enjoy each other’s company?
When you’ve been together for years, you run out of things to do and the relationship may sometimes feel dry and boring. Find new activities to do for both of you and determine if you still are willing to exert effort in trying to have fun with each other.
Do you feel like you’ll lose your best friend if you lose your partner?
When things are rough between you and your partner, take time out to be alone so you can think about how much loss it is if you break up with him/her – or if you feel that it’s not a loss after all. Couples who have successfully been together for a long time would attest that they feel they have found their best friend for life in their partners, that their relationship is not only cultivated around love but also in the friendship that they share.
If you feel like you’re losing the one person that you can trust and open your heart out to, then you better hold on to your partner.
If It’s All Worth It
These are only a few questions you can ask yourself when you and your partner are on the verge of falling apart from each other. In the end, new and old relationships should always be treasured and breakups always thought twice before deciding to throw it away. If the relationship is worth saving, do not be afraid to take the risk of loving your partner. Enjoy the good times and stick around during the bad times, and you’re on your way to forever.
Have you ever rehearsed what you’re going to say during your most awaited first date with someone? Have you tried searching online for tips on what to ask during your first date? Or do you ever wonder if your usual date questions actually matter? If your answer is yes, yes, and yes, worry not. Everyone else thought about those at least once in their dating lifetime. Because first dates are important in deciding whether to continue seeing someone or not, let me share 15 questions that may help you on your first date.
Every couple has their own way of spending the day together. Whatever it is, it might be a little too routinely if that’s the only thing you keep doing with your partner when you’re out on a date. It would help to spice things up a bit sometimes. If you do, it ignites the spark and excitement between you two. The thought of “Oh! We are actually doing this together. Crazy!”