At some point, most of us have been in that kind of relationship where we are wondering whether to let go or still hold on. We are confused as to the direction the relationship is taking us, and we just don’t know whether to walk away or keep holding on, hoping that things will get better. Relationships normally go through high and low moments and in those moments, it’s hard to be sure of where you stand in the relationship.
There are times in your relationship when you feel like it’s no longer worth it. Trying to make it work just begins to feel like a waste of time, and you begin to wonder if it’s time to say goodbye.
You look at your partner, and you just don’t feel the love anymore. All the admiration you have for them is gone, and you just don’t want to be with them anymore. Or maybe it isn’t you. Maybe it’s them, with their refusal to put in more effort. You realize that they have been taking you for granted, you no longer feel as if they love you anymore, all the nice things they did for you in the past seems like it happened in your past life. The way they treat you now makes you feel worthless and unloved. You just begin to feel like it’s time to move on.
Yes, there are times when you may just need to put in more effort, to work through the bad times with your partner, but there are also times when you know that trying to work it out is like trying to glue back a broken mirror. It’s never the same again. You get to that point where you have to say enough is enough and you realize that you don’t have to kill yourself trying to mend something that cannot be repaired.
Knowing when to walk away is an important skill to possess once you start dating. Knowledge of the signs helps you identify when it’s time to call it quits. This skill can also be polished with time and as you have more experiences.
Every person knows walking away or letting go is never easy. It is not a pleasant experience people like going through but when you find yourself in that “should I stay or should I leave” mode, then maybe it’s time to take a walk.
You should prepare to say goodbye when you notice that the relationship makes you sadder than it makes you happy, and when you are constantly crying and feeling horrible. When it affects your mental capacity and well-being, then maybe it’s time to tell your partner it’s over.
There is no gain in remaining in a relationship where the bad far outweighs the good, a relationship where you can’t remember the last time you were happy.
You no longer feel interested in the relationship or your partner. The arguments you now have with your partner have exceeded from simple fights to hurling abuses at each other and saying hurtful words. You see nothing wrong in mistreating them and the thought of spending more time with them just fills you with dread, so you’d rather stay at the office or hang out with other people. When you begin to notice that every form of respect and trust have disappeared from the relationship, it’s time to walk away.
These are just signs, alarm bells you should listen to carefully, but the truth is when it’s time, your heart will know. Listen to your heart. You might wonder for days or months, hoping that things will get better until that moment it dawns on you that the whole thing is gone. You will begin to find more reasons to leave than to stay back, and saying goodbye becomes necessary.